A guide to me, Misa Misa!

Hello! I sent you this link because you asked me about something personal or you saw it on my Discord profile, and it's just easier this way! It's not meant to brush you off. Feel free to ask any questions not answered.

My main online alias I have been using since around 2012, but around 2022 I decided to keep that alias more for my personal life, and then Misa came into being for anything roleplay or BDSM related. It's for privacy & safety. From my vibes, or even how I type, or who I roleplay, you may think you know who I am. Feel free to ask. I don't mind confirming if you guess right.

But first..

Just a few things I get asked often, so I'll put them here first!

• If you flirt with me..
  I'll politely ignore it or playfully return, depending. I'll let you know if I'm interested.
• I won't voice chat with you.
  I just don't. I'm multi-tasking, playing games, writing, listening to music, etc.
• I don't play multiplayer games.
  My PC sucks & I don't enjoy them.
• I won't watch media with you.
  After two decades of having to consume media with someone, I enjoy doing it alone now.
• If you send me something you expect me to watch or listen to,
  I likely won't. I'm likely already engaged in something preventing me from it.
• If you make me feel personally uncomfortable due to some bigoted view,
  I'll just delete you.

Basics

I was born on April 28th, 1988 in Saskatchewan, Canada. (Taurus Sun/Scorpio Ascendant/Moon Libra, Earth Dragon). I'd consider my "home" to be Portland, OR, USA, but I am currently living in Virginia, USA.

My personality types are; INTJ-T, the architect. Type 8, the challenger. Disc type C, caution. PATH, the achiever. OCEAN; 73, 78, 83, 81, 90. Politically, I'm a Social Libertarian on the Political Compass. BDSM-type things are; Switch, rope bunny, vanilla brat & brat tamer (when not acting as a domme).

The labels I use (and some I've reclaimed); millennial, demisexual, sapiosexual, bisexual, queer, stoner, LaVeyan Satanist, anti-natalist, anti-theist, yogi, empath & nerd, geek.

I'm kind of a connoisseur, and really enjoy experiencing things.. but only the best of. I enjoy talking about sex & drugs, and it may come up casually. I really enjoy weed & psychedelics, and both have immensely helped my health. I was a bartender & enjoyed alcohol, but stopped drinking in late 2024.

Since I don't work, I spend a lot of time.. Self-caring & on self-improvement (yoga, running, meditation, writing, researching), adulting (chores & errands), spending time online (roleplaying, helping with streams, socializing, making content for websites), listening to tons of music, watching content (let's plays, documentaries, anime, the rare drama & movie) & playing games (indies or older games, typically not AAA).

I was in a five year relationship, previously a four year, and previously a ten year. I am happy being single for now. I do, though, have a sort of e-boyfriend & BDSM based relationships.

Eight Mental Illnesses & Brain Diseases in a Trenchcoat

I am legally disabled & advocate for mental health. I suffer from depression, anxiety, OCPD & OCD, insomnia, C-PTSD, epilepsy & CSVD. I practice mindfulness & trauma therapy (EMDR), various therapies (such as CBT & ACT), along with general solo & group therapy.

Professional Dominatrix (Domme)

It's hard to keep this section short, as many people are very curious about it. I learned starting in 2015 with a masochist friend who was heavily involved in the BDSM scene in Portland, OR. My curiosity also likely lead me there; I enjoyed hanging out in clubs (of any kind), as there's queer clubs, BDSM clubs, strip clubs & often mixtures of those. At the time, I was also running an underground bar connected to an underground poker room and I was exposed to all sorts of ..interesting people. Feel free to ask for stories; I have tons, and as a bartender, I learned how to tell them well.

What kind of domme am I? My domme personality is the "holier-than-thou"/princess type. You have to be worth my time, and I'm not afraid to put my subs in their place. Speaking of which, I do not fuck my subs; I only dom them. With women, I am a sensual sadist with considerable experience, and few limits, depending on the dynamic with that person. With men, it's usually more about them serving me while being demeaned (in whatever style they're into) & then what I call therapy (helping them with shame cycles & other such issues). I have a lot of experience with those into feet or other such kinks. (Those types just love the goths, you know?) I care about my subs, and won't dom someone who I feel can't handle this type of relationship dynamic, or subs who I just don't like.

I am paid when it's offline; I have one-time customers, once-in-a-while customers, or whatever. It's becoming less common as the economy changes, also it's harder to find such folks where I currently live. Online? I basically do the same thing, depending on what the sub wants! It usually includes both discussion while lightly roleplaying (with me acting as Misa loosely). No relationship is the same, and there's always a lot of discussion up front. A "list of kinks" won't do it. I sometimes play for free; I must have a good dynamic with that person, we must be able to have decent conversations, they must keep me entertained, and they must respect me as a person (and not just treat me with porn brain).

I often get asked, "what would you want out of the perfect BDSM relationship?". That'd be a submissive, service top who enjoys conversation & worship. They'd basically be my bodyguard & butler. They'd also need to be a good rigger, as I am an amazing rope bunny & I've always sought that out. Ah.. that's the dream.